You may be either only thinking of yourself or you may be thinking of others too much and not doing enough for yourself. Sometimes doing for others or picking up other people’s messes in life is considered selfish because it makes you feel good and yet it does not strengthen them in character. You are taking away their self-esteem. This may be a type of control. Are you thinking only of yourself instead of putting others first? Are you considering other people’s needs and emotions? Are you setting others up for success by letting them take their own responsibility?

See Responsibility, Self, Yourself, Emotions, Greedy, Hoarding, Miser, Jealous, Pandora’s Box, Martyr, Control, Controller, Fixing.